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Emotionally Focused Therapy

Find your way back to each other.

EFT helps couples (and individuals) understand the emotional cycle that drives conflict and disconnection, and rebuild the safe, secure bond underneath it.

What it helps with

What EFT helps with

Every plan is tailored to you. This is a guide to where this approach is most often used.

Not sure if it's the right fit? That's exactly what your first session is for. We'll recommend the approach (or blend of approaches) that suits you.

How it works

The approach, step by step.

A clear sense of how the work unfolds, always at your pace.

  1. 1

    Name the cycle

    We map the negative pattern that hijacks you both, so the enemy becomes the cycle, not each other.

    Early sessions
  2. 2

    Reach the emotions underneath

    We slow down to the softer feelings beneath the conflict: the fears and longings that rarely get voiced.

    The sessions that follow
  3. 3

    Rebuild the bond

    New, more open conversations create safety and closeness: a more secure connection you can return to.

    Ongoing

EFT is warm and emotionally engaged. Sessions focus on what happens between you in the room, gently and without blame.

Fees & funding

Know your costs before you start.

With a Mental Health Treatment Plan from your GP, Medicare rebates apply to individual therapy. We'll always be clear about costs before you begin.

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  • Medicare: rebates on up to 10 sessions a year with a Mental Health Treatment Plan.
  • NDIS, DVA, Workers Comp & CTP: usually no out-of-pocket cost when approved.
  • Private health: claim through your extras cover, with no referral needed.
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Common questions

Things people ask before booking.

Is EFT only for couples?
EFT is best known for couples, but the same attachment-based approach also helps individuals working on relationships and emotional patterns.
What if my partner won't come?
You can start alone. Individual EFT-informed work still shifts the dynamic, and partners often join once they see it's fair and constructive.
What happens in the first EFT session?
Your psychologist will get to know you both, hear each partner's view of what's been happening, and start to map the cycle you get caught in. There's no blaming: the cycle is treated as the problem, not either of you. Some early sessions may also be held with each partner on their own.
Can couples therapy be done online?
Yes. EFT sessions can be held over telehealth, either together from the same place or from different locations. Online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy around work and children.
How is EFT different from the Gottman Method?
Both are well-researched approaches to couples therapy. EFT focuses on the emotions and attachment needs underneath your conflict cycle, while the Gottman Method draws on research into specific relationship skills and friendship. Your psychologist can help you work out which fits your relationship.
Is couples therapy covered by Medicare?
Medicare rebates under a Mental Health Treatment Plan apply to the individual named on the plan, so couples sessions are often not covered in the same way. Our team can explain your options, including private health insurance, before you book.
Do I need a referral?
No. You can book directly with us any time. A referral and Mental Health Treatment Plan from your GP is only needed to claim Medicare rebates.
Related
References
  1. Wiebe SA, Johnson SM. (2016). A review of the research in emotionally focused therapy for couples. Family Process, 55(3), 390-407. doi.org/10.1111/famp.12229
  2. Spengler PM, Lee NA, Wiebe SA, Wittenborn AK. (2024). A comprehensive meta-analysis on the efficacy of emotionally focused couple therapy. Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice, 13(2), 81-99. doi.org/10.1037/cfp0000233
Reading and tools

Further reading and free tools.

Which approach might suit? A rough guide to what each therapy focuses on most; your psychologist will help you choose, and many people use more than one.

Thinking and behaviour

Emotion and acceptance

Trauma memory

Relationships

Strengths and solutions

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Your next step starts here.

Tell us what's going on and we'll match you with the right psychologist, usually after a free triage. No referral needed to begin.

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